Whose cheers do I want to hear the most? Is it from my family, friends, co-workers, or even strangers?
Whose do I need to hear the most?
To be honest, it’s no one else’s. Don’t get me wrong—I truly appreciate support from others. But the loudest and most meaningful cheer should come from within. My own voice. My own encouragement.
Here’s why: no one else will ever have the same pure intentions for me that I have for myself. That’s not to say people don’t care—they do—but everyone is living their own life. Even when people offer encouragement, their thoughts move on quickly. That’s normal, and that’s okay.
People might cheer when you achieve something—even something as small as getting out of bed—but that’s usually because they believe it matters to you. Once they acknowledge it, they go back to their own responsibilities. And that’s where your own support becomes essential.
The only person who truly knows your thoughts, your struggles, and your goals… is you.
Take getting out of bed, for example. It may seem like a small act, but it can be a crucial win that sets the tone for your day. As kids, we had parents nudging us awake—it was their responsibility, and it benefited them, too. But as adults, that support system changes. We have to become our own motivator.
One trick I use is cheering myself on, out loud if I need to. I’ll say:
- “I got this.”
- “You’ve got this!”
- “Awesome, another opportunity.”
- “We’re alive—let’s go.”
- “No, no—don’t give up now.”
Sometimes, I’ll even give myself a little pat on the shoulder. It might seem silly, but it tricks my brain into feeling like someone’s there—someone who cares. And really, there is someone: me.
Don’t underestimate the power of self-support. It’s what helps you get out of bed. It’s what pushes you forward when no one else is watching. These little habits and affirmations can help you achieve your goals, big or small, because they come from the one person who will always be there: you.
We’re born alone, and we’ll leave this world alone. But in between, we can choose to be our own biggest fan.
Be kind to your number one supporter. Their voice matters—and it has more power than you think.
So, what do you think? Do you believe your own support matters more than others’?
“So, what do you think? Do you believe your own support matters more than others’?”
I rely on myself first. It’s cool to have support from others, but I’ve learned I’m my own constant. Others support is nice but it can be inconsistent, conditional or insincere. But knowing I have myself to count on is what really matters to me.